So many things. So much missing. But it’s the silence that I notice most.
No background noise, the sounds of someone cooking, the clatter and occasional mumble. The sound of a breakage or mishap.
No sound of breathing (snoring) at night. That’s the worst thing. Never thought I would miss that so much.
The radio, once a constant companion, now a fleeting friend. The Archers were a source of amusement to me, Sally was a huge fan. The theme tune alone sends me off. I avoid Radio 4 after 9am, just in case. BBC6 Music likewise, too many bloody good tunes that we both loved. I daren’t listen to Craig Charles on Saturday.
The chats, conversations, comments. All gone. Silence reigns supreme. Apart from the occasional dog fart and traffic noise.
Gone are the cheeky text messages, heralded by a Sally chosen alert sound. The phones rarely ring.
Never was a big fan of the idiot lantern. So that stays silent too, mostly. Unless there is a safe film on, one that doesn’t have any connection. Old black and white films are best, especially war films. They are my connection to another time, not with Sally, to my childhood and youth.
So that’s silence.
Let’s not talk about touch.
Anger? Hello Anger are you there?
Ah, hello Anger, what kept you, we were beginning to wonder if you would be joining us.
Plenty more plates in the cupboard, shame about the food though, looked nice.
No major damage, wall tiles seem ok and the cooker is fairly robust.
Doesn’t casserole go a long way.
Not how I really wanted to spend an hour this evening. I had other plans.
So a glass of milk, amitriptyline and an early night it is.
Feeling drained and very lonely.
Acceptance? You must be joking. Now leave me alone before another plate gets it.
Last year we sowed the seeds, we planted out the seedlings, we watched them grow, we harvested the crop.
We cooked the produce, we laughed, we danced, we ate the meal, we enjoyed the meal, we froze what we didn’t eat.
This year we sowed the seeds, we planted out the seedlings. We watched them grow, I harvested the crop.
I defrosted the meal, I stood silently, I ate the meal alone, I seasoned the meal with tears.
A town of many memories.
A place forever associated with Sally, she brought me here two months after we met. I had been before but had no strong memories.
That all changed with Sally. From the first visit we loved being here together. Us and the dogs.
We would arrive early Friday, unload and unpack. Walk the dogs. Lunch at the Duke of York, couple of pints and home for a ‘nap’.
Another dog walk later in the day, pot of tea for two and a change of clothes. Cocktails for two at the Moon and Sixpence, fish and chips from Magpies. Eaten out, under the bandstand if the weather was good.
A romantic stroll down the pier, hand in hand, kisses and laughter, always laughter with Sally.
Hugs and more kisses at the end of the pier, stare out at the sea, ponder our luck at meeting. Home, nightcap and a warm bed.
A similar picture on Saturday, but with a meal at Green’s.
Table for two. Looking into each other’s eyes, mouthing the words I love you, enjoying the excellent food. Chatting about the meal, our life, our love for each other and making plans for the future.
Laughter as we walked home via the pier. Laughter, a constant in our lives. An evening of pure enjoyment, of the food and each other.
Home and the warm embrace of the one you adore sending you to sleep, happy and content with your lot in life.
Slow Sunday morning, pack and head home.
Relaxed, refreshed, recharged, loved up and content.
Whitby was ours, life was very good.
An empty, silent house.
No Duke of York. It’s full of happy couples, I walk in and walk straight back out again.
No pot of tea. Tea bag in a mug will do.
No Moon and Sixpence, no Magpies fish and chips.
No nap, well not that kind of nap. A doze in the armchair now.
No Green’s. Table for one? Sorry Rob, another time maybe.
No pier walk. No warm embrace. No laughter.
I am here to see if I can be here.
I can. But why?
“Make new memories”
Tricky. How do you make new ones when the old ones are so dominant?
How can you make a new walk down the old path?
Make a new path? Yes! Avoid the old paths, simple.
The new path takes me round the housing estate, up to the industrial estate and along the busy main road.
Whitby suddenly lost it’s charm.
I will be back; we have ashes to scatter. But not to stay. Not yet, not for a while at least.